The eleventh rule of being a man is:
Never apologize for what you want
You don’t need to apologize for what you want, whatever it is.
Sometimes the people around you or the messages from society will not be approving of your wants. You will get push back, disapproval, and rejection.
Maybe you’ll be told you’re not worthy of having what you want, that you’re not good enough. Or maybe you’ll be told you don’t deserve it, that your wants are too difficult to achieve.
Most damaging of all, you might be told that what you want isn’t acceptable, that it’s not OK to want that. (This message is an example of shaming and it’s wrong. Don’t listen to it.)
If you want love, health, peace, family, pets, or a career, you’ll likely get support from those around you and approval from society.
But if you want sex, wealth, freedom, fame, protection, or privacy you may not get the same support and approval. That’s OK. It’s not helpful for others to disapprove like that, but you can choose not to listen to it.
If you want material possessions like cars, clothes, electronics, guns, tools, or whatever, you’ll find some people who understand your wants and may have similar ones themselves. They’ll be your supporters.
But some people will always disapprove. They’ll tell you material possessions are wrong, wasteful, or dumb. Or maybe they will just tell you that the material possessions you want are wrong, wasteful, or dumb. Either way, just ignore them.
No matter who you are or what you want, there will always be people who don’t agree. You have to choose to hold your head up and value who you are. Understand that you don’t owe them anything, don’t need their approval, you can live without them, and it doesn’t matter what they think.
You are a man. You are a real men who’s honest with himself, clear about what you want, and you’re not afraid to go after it.
You don’t apologize for what you want. You go after it and you win it.
– Weston Henry
Have you ever been made to feel that your wants are wrong?
Have you ever backed away from your wants because you were afraid of what someone else might think?