Rule #6 – Don’t Apologize For Being Yourself

The sixth rule of being a man is:

Don’t apologize for being yourself

You are who you are. You aren’t anyone else and you can’t ever be.

You’re unique. In all the billions of people on the earth, there is only one you.

No one else has your unique combination of skills, abilities, strengths, feelings, experiences, and knowledge.

That also means no one else can ever be you.

At times in life, you may be under pressure from those around you to be different, to be someone you’re not, to fit in, to conform.

At other times, you may try and change yourself to fit in, to conform, to make others “like” you.

Don’t do it.

If you like action movies and your SO likes comedy, that doesn’t make either of you wrong. But if you get criticized for it like, “Why do you always have to watch movies with fights and explosions all the time?” Don’t let that be a criticism of you and whatever you do, don’t apologize for being who you are!

Instead of saying, “I’m sorry,” or “I’m sorry, but that’s how I am,” turn the conversation away from being about you personally and say, “Everyone has different tastes. You like comedies and I like action movies. There’s nothing wrong with that.”

Bonus points if you follow it up with something like, “I don’t criticize you about your tastes. It’s not right to criticize me about mine.”

When you apologize for being who you are, you are effectively saying, “I’m not good enough.” And that is suicide for your self-esteem.

Don’t do it!

Accept who you are and be who you are without apology.

Being who you are doesn’t make you better than others and it doesn’t make you right and others wrong. That’s not what this is about.

It also doesn’t mean you’re perfect and shouldn’t try to grow, learn, and better yourself.

Being who you are also doesn’t give others the right to judge you or put you down. If they don’t like you or if they aren’t like you, that’s fine. We’re all different for a reason.

Being who you are is about honesty and integrity. It’s about being true to yourself.

So be who you are and NEVER apologize for being who you are.

– Weston Henry


Have you ever apologized for who you are? When?

Have you ever tried to change yourself to fit in or make someone else like you? When? Did it work?