The second rule of being a man is:
Be someone you’re proud of
If you always act in a way that you’d be proud of, then you can always look back on yourself without regret.
One way to do this is to think of people you respect and act in the way that would cause those people to respect you. For example, I have a lot of respect for my father. He’s someone I look up to. So, one way to be someone I’d be proud of is to ask myself, “What would my father do?” and then do that.
There’s a saying, “What would Jesus do?” that’s a great example of this kind of character modeling. Think about what your role model would do and then do it.
Another way of saying this is for you to identify role models and then emulate the things that appeal to you about those role models. If your role model is a family member, historical person, sports legend, leader in your community or church, manager at work, or whoever it is… ask yourself what it is that you respect about that person, what positive qualities make them who they are, and then emulate those things.
You have to be careful not to settle for superficial traits. Don’t pick a famous sports star as your role model because they’re rich or famous. Those aren’t character traits. Famous and rich aren’t ways of behaving.
On the other hand, if you pick a famous sports star as your role model because they were incredibly hard working, always strove to learn more, never stopped trying to get better, never gave up, and stayed humble even after they became rich and famous, now those are great character traits for you to emulate.
Here’s another way to accomplish this: Visual the kinds of values, attitudes, behaviors, thinking, and skills you want to have, those that you would be proud of and that would make the people you respect proud of you. Once you visualize them, then act them out. Start thinking and behaving like your visualizations right now today.
Visualization is a powerful way to teach yourself. Science has proven that visualization can help athletes perform better. Visualizing yourself having the kinds of values, attitudes, behaviors, and skills you want to have is a great way to begin developing yourself into the man you want to be. It’s a way to mentally practice acting like the man you want to be so you’re better prepared when tough situations arise.
These are just a few strategies you can use to get you there, but it’s the end result that matters most: Be someone you’d be proud of.
– Weston Henry
Who are your role models and why? What are the character traits they have that you want to emulate? Are they helping you act in a way that you’re proud of?
What experience have you had visualizing yourself acting in a way you’re proud of?