Being a man is all about character.
It’s really about who you are. Are you mature, dependable, trustworthy, honest, transparent, and giving? Do you have high integrity?
Or are you immature, unreliable, dishonest, untrustworthy, selfish, and two-faced?
Modern western culture is warping our attitudes and values so that we think being a man is about being cocky, violent, rich, arrogant, disrespectful, and famous. Children are growing up exposed to these cultural stereotypes constantly. No wonder there is so much confusion about what it really means to be a man.
Just look at examples of famous people from American culture for examples: Movie stars are selfish and narcissistic. Athletes are cocky and arrogant. Rap music stars are flaunting disrespect for laws and bragging about violence. Plus we’ve got politicians who are corrupt and immoral, never taking personal responsibility for their actions or failures.
And across all those areas are countless examples of infidelity and adultery showcasing their selfish, narcissistic personalities.
Yet our media pushes those people as role models (to sell movies, music, TV viewership, and other products) and fawns over them with such exaggerated importance that they’re treated like pinnacles in our society.
But those aren’t the traits of a true man. And being rich or famous doesn’t make someone more of a man than a poor, unknown stranger you’ve never met.
Truly being a man is about positive character. How do you act? What do you do when faced with tough decisions? Do you consider the needs of others? Do you strive for the greater good instead of just thinking about your own benefit?
To be a real man, you need to have solid character. And if you have good character and act on it, really let your character shine through, you’re also likely to be authentic and have high integrity which are two additional traits important to being a man. (I’ll cover authenticity and integrity in future posts.)
If you want to be a real man, you have to have real character.
– Weston Henry
What do you think is the most important character trait to be a man?
Who do you think embodies the character traits of a real man best?